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There are undoubtedly many reasons for split-ups, but the prologue to separation or divorce seems to frequently follow a repeating, 4-step pattern (as summarized here2 and here3) — despite hours and sessions of counselling.
SO, could one of the exacerbating factors be the counselling itself?4 Consider:
▪ if the adversary's agenda, from before Day One was to destroy souls and relationships, would he not be subtle enough to establish or infiltrate modern-day counselling modalities with subtle divisive elements?5Yes, what would a Christ-centered modality look like?
▪ how many counselors focus primarily on “mote”6 therapy where complaints, sins, and disappointments are aired? (again and again?)
▪ does the counselor request individual goal-setting which ends up with one or both partners demanding behavior modification in the other? (otherwise it's over?)
▪ do the counselling sessions and suggestions seem to divide more than heal?
▪ do spiritual advisors who send couples off to counselling ever keep a tally of the success / failure ratio?7 Is it always the fault of the suffering couple?
▪ what would a Christ-centered modality look like? Would it make a difference?
Perhaps we are in luck. Perhaps
Four years ago, a dear family member encountered both counselling and Mort Fertel. Whatever the outcome, more sufferers need to encounter Mr. Fertel. In this writer's view, every relationship (family, friend, foe) could benefit from the principles and practices recommended at:
1. Pearl of Great Price | Moses 5:12–16 ~ And Adam and Eve blessed the name of God, and they made all things known unto their sons and their daughters. And Satan came among them, saying: I am also a son of God; and he commanded them, saying: Believe it not; and they believed it not, and they loved Satan more than God. And men began from that time forth to be carnal, sensual, and devilish. ... And Adam and Eve, his wife, ceased not to call upon God. And Adam knew Eve his wife, and she conceived and bare Cain, and said: I have gotten a man from the Lord; wherefore he may not reject his words. But behold, Cain hearkened not, saying: Who is the Lord that I should know him?
2. http://dejavu-timestwo.blogspot.com/2015/12/anatomy-of-disaffection.html (From thoughts sparked by Russell M. Stendal)
3. http://dejavu-timestwo.blogspot.com/2015/11/prologue-to-divorce.html (From thoughts sparked by Russell M. Stendal)
4. This is not to say that all counselling is unhelpful, but considering the number of divorces despite long and costly sessions, one wonders what the tally of wins and losses are for counselors, many of whom view the success of their practice in terms of income rather than marriages saved vis-à-vis divorces.
5. Doctrine and Covenants | Section 46:7-9 ~ But ye are commanded in all things to ask of God, who giveth liberally; and that which the Spirit testifies unto you even so I would that ye should do in all holiness of heart, walking uprightly before me, considering the end of your salvation, doing all things with prayer and thanksgiving, that ye may not be seduced by evil spirits, or doctrines of devils, or the commandments of men; for some are of men, and others of devils. Wherefore, beware lest ye are deceived; and that ye may not be deceived seek ye earnestly the best gifts, always remembering for what they are given; For verily I say unto you, they are given for the benefit of those who love me and keep all my commandments, and him that seeketh so to do; that all may be benefited that seek or that ask of me, that ask and not for a sign that they may consume it upon their lusts. (Bold emphasis added.)
6. New Testament | Matthew 7:3-4 ~ And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye?
7. If the majority of patients keep dying, would one not be moved to reconsider the remedy applied?
8. Wikimedia Commons image: By Tim Houlihan [CC BY-SA 3.0 (https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0) or GFDL (http://www.gnu.org/copyleft/fdl.html)], from Wikimedia Commons; (cropped by SMS)
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